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No, no, not the sequel to the film, just part two to this post yesterday where I wondered what I might advise a fifteen year old me about life, love, career and all things in between to make her teenage and early twenties years less painful.
There is the school of thought that would say that every painful experience I went through has led me to be where I am today, to the person I am sitting here writing this.
But to that I say bollix.
There were many experiences that only slowed down my growth into the woman I am today and it is in spite of these experiences, not because of them, that I am me. For sure some things taught me more of life, but some things were just a nasty pain in the ass to be borne and struggled through until I got the better of them.
With all that in mind (!), here is my love(ly) letter to 15 year old me:

Dear Daisy,
You are doing your Junior Cert right about now. And you are very serious about it and about doing well. Don’t worry so much, you will do very well. I promise!

Spend more time with your friends. I know you think you need to study, study, study but spending time with your friends and having fun are important things too.

Try not to be scared to go out with your friends when you know they will be up to what you think is ‘up to no good’, drinking or smoking or hanging around with the wrong people. You are strong enough to tell them you don’t want to be part of some things without having to become a hermit.

Think carefully about what subjects you want to do for your Leaving Cert as it is going to be tough going. Pick things you love and are really good at, not what you think might be a ‘sensible idea’ or worse still ‘a bit of a challenge’ 😮

Take an interest in boys. Don’t always assume that if you hear from one of your friends who has heard from one of the boys that their friend likes you that it must all be a set-up. They are not trying to make a show of you. They are not trying to trick you into saying you like him too so that they can all have a good laugh about it afterwards. Boys do and will like you, go with it 🙂

Don’t be afraid to let your friends hug you. I know it’s awkward because no one has ever really hugged you before but go with it and return the favour sometimes. Believe me you love hugs!

Lastly-write more stuff in your Beverly Hills 90210 diary – you’ll enjoy reading it in later years when you rediscover it 😀

Much love and hugs to you from me,
Daisy (Age 30)


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Or rather Back to the Past.
What if you could write a letter to a younger you at what you now know to be a crucial point in your life with guidance and advice on what to do next? I woke up thinking of this this morning for some reason and have composed a letter several times over in my head, each one being scrapped as being too scary or too much information or not clear enough for the younger me to take notice of.
I think the first crucial point (of several) I would have to go to was when I was around 15. Not an exact moment or anything but it was after the Junior Cert that life seemed to get unhappy, complicated and scary and it didn’t have to.
I’m going to try and compose something meaningful and helpful and see what happens.

So…back to 1993 then…

Dear Daisy,

That’s as far as I can get. I don’t know where to start. What would you tell a younger you?

I’ll be back to finish this.

Perhaps I should set this up as a meme…hmmmmm…3 things you would tell the 15 year old you…

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